I am starting off this week with a lot of things on my mind. Right at the top of it is a meeting I have with a group of young men that I am mentoring. The primary issue I am dealing with is abstinence and how to convey this message over to them. The only way I could figure to really catch their attention is to really expose myself. Being a young 31 year old healthy black male this is a lifestyle choice I have made as well till I have a mate (wife that is). How can I get them to realistically look at abstinence as a choice if I don't include me in the conversation. The first thing many people need to remember is abstinence does not mean that you are a virgin. Rather it is a choice to stop practicing sex for whatever reason. I can give you some good reasons especially if you are a young teen or young adult and not married. A number one reason to me is you will not have to worry about STD's. Secondly another good reason is you will not have to worry about pregnancy. The only 100% sure way to prevent pregnancy young women is abstinence.
With all this being said it eased my mind about talking to the young men about abstinence. Will I tell them the road will be easy. NO!!!! My day is full of surprises, offers, temptations, and many distractions to lead me from this path. I can simply tell them through determination, prayer, and honesty with themselves they can actually enjoy a lifestyle of abstinence.
Kenyetta Drain The Preacher Rapper and Singer
People always say I wish there were more brothers out there like you to instill such profound wisdom to our struggling youth, but I know there are more like you. You all travel in packs, so I hope that more will read this and have this open conversation about choices, and what it says about the character of a man who "chooses" to wait for permanent, lasting love rather than the temporary. Kudos!
ReplyDeleteI appreciate the comments Shantelle. Please feel free to speak your mind anytime.
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